So our super romantic night last night, well, wasn't.
Apparently putting all sorts of pressure on yourself to like, make a baby, makes sex into work and not so much fun, and yeah. It just wasn't happening. And even though I'm pretty disappointed, I don't really want the conception of my child to be some sort of drudgery. So it will be okay.
But anyway, there goes this month. Most likely, at least, as I haven't had that spike yet, so in the case Husband is feeling particularly amorous tonight... So probably not. Oh well.
I guess the key here is for us to stop thinking about it and talking about it and just let. it. happen. But the problem here is twofold: First of all, I am me. Talking and thinking about it is what I do. That's what this motherfucking blog is for, after all. And it's not like I could stop if I wanted to. I suppose I could stop talking to Kyle specifically about it, but that lead us to problem numba two: the way our schedules are so irregular and non-overlapping and crazy, if we don't plan in sex, we don't have it very often. So if we just "let it happen," it'll probably happen sometime in 2015. Great.
Right now I don't really know what the plan is. Kyle and I probably need to discuss it more when we're not half naked after really bad sort-of-sex.
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How frustrating! I hear you on the whole if we don't try it'll be 2015 before anything happens. We are sort of similar. It's not that we don't like to do it...we just don't get around to it all that often. I don't know why. It'll be interesting to see what we do when we start ttc. So, thanks for blogging about it ahead of my time :)
ReplyDeleteHaha, yeah. Our schedule ends up being like this: I get up and go to work, he is still sleeping. He is gone for work by the time I get home. I wait up for him to get home from work and we eat. I go to bed and he stays up and does whatever. We both have varying schedules and he plays on a baseball team, so occasions where we both have a day with a lot of nothing in it are few and far between.
ReplyDeleteI think this is a very common issue for ttc couples. I know M and I went through it, and I know of at least 2 other blogity friends who have or are going through it. I don't know what the solution is though. Not even my therapist had an answer for that one other than that now is a good time to foster intimacy between the two of you in more ways than just sex.
ReplyDeleteYep. I mean, I may have cried, because that's just what I do, but I'm aware enough to recognize that this isn't about me not being attractive enough or that we are somehow incompatible all of the sudden, but I feel like I've been waiting for a long time to really get started, and having this rain on my parade on my first cycle of actually trying kind of sucks.
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